Many people today have forgotten that social skills existed long before social book marking sites and other Internet social communities existed online. The dictionary (Concise Oxford Dictionary, 1964) has nearly a page listed dealing with the word “social” and derivatives of, but the meaning we are most concerned with in this article is the definition given to the word social:

“social:a.& n. Living in companies, gregarious, not fitted for or not practising solitary life, interdependent, co-operative, practising division of labour, existing only as member of compound organism, (man is a social animal; social bees, wasps, kinds having common nests etc. ~birds, building near each other in communities; ~plants, kinds that grow thickly together & monopolize ground they grow on)”

People have been social creatures since they first learnt the benefits of not clubbing each other to death.  (more…)

Learning how to respond to a young man’s chivalry seems to be an art form that has gone by the wayside. This is because so many girls have never been taught how to respond confidently to a compliment or to an act of kindness and consideration shown to them by someone from the opposite sex.

Once girls leave school and are out into the workforce in everyday life, to be able to respond correctly in any given situation is a sign of maturity and poise. This is a feminine sign and it seems to be horribly downgraded by the feminist movement rather than being seen as a sign of grace. Don’t ever be foolish enough to mistake gentleness as a sign of weakness. One can be as stubborn, determined and as independent gently as any stridently independent feminist woman can be.

It’s just so much nicer for everyone around you if you are independent gracefully rather than stridently and nine times out of ten, you will get what you want faster than if you get “on your high horse” and start demanding something. Demands automatically trigger a negative response from people, where gentleness triggers a want to please response.

Hence the old proverb “You catch more flies with honey than you do with Vinegar”.

Here are our top ten tips to turn girls into confident young ladies:

1. When someone pays you a compliment, smile nicely at them and say “thank you”. That’s all you have to do.

2. When your date arrives to pick you up at your home, wait for him to ring the doorbell. If he won’t come to the front door to pick you up, he is subtly indicating his lack of concern for you. Not good for a long term romance.

3. When he does ring the door bell for you, don’t run at him like a gamboling puppy. Smile and say “Hello”, introduce him to anyone around you, and then move off with him. Wait to see if he knows to open your car door for you; stand aside and let him. Then sit down in the car seat before you swing your legs inside the car at the same time you catch his eye, smile and say a simple ‘thank you’. The reason you need to have your backside in the seat before swinging your legs inside is simply because if you are wearing a short mini skirt you need to keep your legs together. While he is walking around the car, buckle up your seat belt.

4. Once you get to where ever you are going, wait for him to open the door again for you. By showing him that you are happy for him to be chivalrous is an indicator to him that he’s treating you right and that is very important to a young man. It lets him know exactly where he stands

5. If he needs to buy tickets or whatever, just stand in the queue with him. If you feel that you should pay for your own tickets, meal or whatever, now is the time to offer but we are assuming for the sake of these ten tips that you are on a ‘real date’ and that the young man wants to impress you. If this is the case, then offering to pay for the tickets or meal or whatever, is not a good thing to do. It will likely embarrass him. Accept his gift of the meal or tickets gracefully with a nice smile and a ‘thank you’.

6. As the relationship moves further along, you will be able to make up these incidental expenses to him but now is not the right time to do this. If you were just going out with a friend on a “dutch treat” date where everyone pays for themselves, these tips would differ considerably. But you are out with a “dream guy” who wants a relationship with you so these ten tips are to help you to help him so you both get what you want.

7. Once you are in the movie theatre or restaurant and he has pulled your chair out and seated you first, once again a simple smile and thank you is all that’s needed. Make sure that if you are wearing a short mini skirt that you don’t sit with your legs apart or crossed. Knees together is neat and ladylike.

8. If you are a gum chewer, try not to chew gum on a first date. And whenever you chew chewing gum, never do it with your mouth open. Chewing gum with your mouth open makes you look like a Cow chewing its Cud in a field. Just don’t do it ~ its not a good look at any time.

9. Once the date is over, let him walk you to your front door. Apart from the “will-I or won’t-I” uncertainty as to whether or not to kiss you goodnight, its a safety precaution for you to be safely delivered back inside your home. This is important if it is late and dark. If he is not inclined or offer to do this, think carefully about whether you will date him again or not.

10. The date is over and you have both had a nice time. He has done everything right and you would like to see him again. And he would like to see you again. Now comes the vexing question of whether you should kiss on a first date? Yes, a gentle kiss and a warm hug is nice to go to bed by ~ alone ~ with sweet dreams for tomorrow. Just before you turn off your bedroom light, text him and say “thanks, I had a really great time”. And don’t forget to add that smile.