Your Opinion Matters
Have you ever been in a situation where someone has put you down for expressing your opinion? Not only is that the height of rudeness, ignorance and bad manners but anyone who has to validate their own opinion by disparaging the opinion of someone else, is showing the whole world their own insecurity problem. If they want to ‘air their dirty laundry’ in public, don’t be drawn into it.
Your opinion matters the same amount as any one else so never allow a disparaging comment to throw you off or to silence you. Unfortunately, many stay-at-home Mums “get down in the doldrums” because they can sometimes feel that no one wants to listen to their opinion or thoughts on what’s happening around them or in the wider outside world.
For some inexplicable reason, it seems that some people tend to think that stay-at-home Mums have had a lobotomy or some other mind-removing operation and now no longer have an opinion on anything.
Just because you’ve had a baby or you have young children and your life is constantly at someone else’s beck and call, doesn’t mean you have stopped thinking or that you have stopped hearing! Why some people should think you no longer have an opinion on anything beats the life out of me and yes, it does make me angry.
I had an “X” who used to put me down and he did it a thousand times too often. I kept my opinions and got rid of him and if there is someone in your life who won’t listen to your opinions or puts you down for having them, may I suggest you strongly think about the rest of your life?
I know of many women who have had babies in the past three years and one of their biggest regrets is not being able to stay at home with them. If you are in the position of being able to stay home with your kids then thank your lucky stars for the privilege that has been granted to you. But this still doesn’t mean that your opinion no longer matter or that you don’t have one. You’ve set-aside your career for the time being, not your mind or your brain. Having a brain or using your mind is not like it disappears when you give birth.
On the other side of the coin, an opinionated person is a different kettle of fish. No one likes a person who insists on talking over the top of every body else or who gives an opinion without being invited to do so. We all know someone whom we think is opinionated and I have to ask the obvious question: “How often do you seek their company out?”
Your opinion matters but you need good social skills to know when and how to express it too. These social skills need to be applied in a relationship as well as in a social gathering.