Loving relationships in real life are difficult enough but there are some people who are trying to build a loving relationship online and from a distance. For the purpose of this article we will deal with using apathy as the measurement for calculating how much love there is in a ‘normal’ real-life relationship off-line.

Firstly, lets clarify the meaning of apathy. The Concise Oxford Dictionary (1964) definition is:

apathy; n. insensibility to suffering; passionless existence; indolence of mind, without feeling.

So if this is to be the yardstick by which to assess how much someone loves us or how much we love someone else, it is important to know precisely what the word means. Otherwise we will be back to trying to compare mangos to mandarins again.

If you are trying to assess as best as you can, how someone feels about you, if you sometimes feel that they are quite passionless towards you or they couldn’t really care whether you came or went away, then if you feel that this person doesn’t mind much either way, you would probably be better off finding a new love.

Don’t just do this thought process once though to one set of circumstances, do this assessment over a few different scenarios. Sometimes people’s minds are just otherwise occupied and they may seem very off-hand simply because they have a more pressing problem on their mind.

To find out how you feel about someone, do this test on yourself because it is a great way to clarify thoughts. Once the rampant emotions of sexual desire calm down a bit, it is much easier to be objective about the person who has caused such raging hormones in your system.

Sometimes, you may find that the only thing you have in common is this overwhelming sexual appetite for each other. Now you need to ask yourself another question: “Is this all I want from my life partner for the rest of my life?” As always, what you do about the answer is up to you but it would be a terrible shame to spend the next 30 years of your life with someone and the sexual flame is on its final flicker and you part company because you both now realises that sexual attraction was all that you had between you as two individual people. Because chances are, thirty years later you will probably have a couple of kids and Grand kids.

And believe me, look around you and see how many ’single’ men and women you see because they did not ask themselves the right questions at the right time or they decided that sex was the most important thing in their lives. Being older and alone is no joke.

Apathy is a good love calculator to measure a relationship by because it shows your feelings to you in a way that is emotionally manageable, and it is a quick litmus test indicator to your partners feelings towards you.